May 312016

Amazing how simple it is to undo fear, with The Work of Byron Katie. I just spent the weekend with her at the Omega Institute.

What happened to me?

I woke up in the morning with the thought: I’m afraid it’s not going to work.

It doesn’t matter what isn’t going to work, it could be anything, but it related to my opening a new office and investing in myself and my new business right now.

Immediately, my stomach tightened. You know the feeling, when one idea makes the mind race, and you forget to breathe.

You get all knotted up inside.

Sound familiar?

I thought, really?  Is that thought even true?  How do I know?

Maybe it is, OK, let’s say it is.  It’s not going to work.

How do I react when I believe that thought?

I jot down the feelings it brings up.  I’m anxious, feeling small, doomed to fail, guarded and worried.

Then I asked, what if I dropped that thought?  That one idea?  How would that feel?  Who would I be without it?

I would be happier, I would feel more at ease.

Such a simple thing really…

I am convinced I would be better off without that thought.

I turned it around and stated the opposite: It is going to work.

I was a bit curious.  I went inside and asked how I react to that thought?

Surprisingly, I was afraid of this too.  Why?

Because if it is going to work, then, well…

I would be successful, I would get lots business, people would find me, I would be located in a place I really want to be, I would feel fulfilled, at ease, making money, helping people the way I want to, and clients would be getting the support they want and need.

My life would open up to possibilities I can’t foresee.

My heart opened as I recognized that this thought: It is going to work implied three important things:

  1. I am not my fear, of success or of failure.
  2. It is worth taking the risk.
  3. It may fail. If so, I will learn from it.

Then the light went off inside:  It is already working.

I am doing it…clients are coming to me, I am reaching my audience.  It’s the beginning of a new venture and a new life.

My business has grown to the point where I need my own office, which will establish my presence in Newburyport and online.

I’m connecting with new people by not working from home.  Getting the office is the logical next step.

Then I saw once again that inner vision, like the one I had two years ago when I first declared that I wanted to move to the East Coast and reach more people.

I saw myself in a community, meeting lots of people, having fun.  I am near the water, near Boston, close to my home state of Maine, an ideal location.

The truth is, in less than two years, I have a new business and am serving more clients each week.

I need the office to keep this momentum going and to open up to prosperity.

The point being: my fear was based on nothing.

Fear is never true, it has no real substance. I am learning to trust, knowing I offer heart-centered healing work that’s powerful and needed.

It’s efficient and it’s worked for thousands of people.

It’s life-changing. And it’s changing me.

If you struggle with fear of failure or fear of success, you might want to give “The Work” of Byron Katie a shot.

But don’t take my word for it…try it and see what happens.

I help people like you change their stifling fearful beliefs with this method and others.

Isn’t it time you let go of fear and move into your real purpose now?

If so, see for yourself how it works. Or call me for a Discovery Session.  What do you have to lose?

The four questions and the turnaround are from Byron Katie’s The Work.  You can download the worksheet for learning to release your fear by using this simple method at



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Monica Dubay

Monica has been a teacher of transformation since 1990, when she was healed of anxiety and depression miraculously. She has been a healer and teacher of A Course in Miracles for over 25 years. She is now offering a program to help women become leaders by changing their fundamental beliefs, finding their true purpose, forgiving the past, and embracing their divine calling.

  6 Responses to “How to Undo the Fear of Failure…and Success”

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  1. I love this message, Monica and your examples. I really needed to read this today…..right now! Thank you for writing it and sharing your experience! It’s funny how we can still experience fear when we have such success to think about and lean on as we move forward. I agree that as you stay true to your mission, your forward growth will continue and become exponential!

  2. Oh, how I love the work of Byron Katie! I saw her about a decade ago when she was in the Washington, DC area. ~ The four questions and the turnaround are quite enlightening! It brings to our awareness the power of our thoughts. And anything can change with a “turnaround” in thinking. ~ Thank you for this wonderful reminder of “The Work.”

  3. Wonderful, Monica. I remember reading Byron Katie’s book years ago and was surprised at how simple yet effective it was. I’m so glad you think so too!

  4. Thank you Monica, I experienced the fear of succes too.
    That fear hidden behind the fear of failing.
    It helped me your sharing.
    Lots of ?

  5. So many struggle with fear. This is a great post. And if people knew how much power they had to flip the fear switch to love, their lives would change over night. Thank you for sharing your wisdom.

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