Apr 272017
 

Here’s a link to my latest 60 minute class that heals the mind and shifts you out of fear.  It has a guided healing from the beginning and a talk on the Course in Miracles, Lessons 65 & 66, how to choose happiness, in the midst of chaos or fear.

These two lessons are so important, as they lighten up your mind and show you that your only real function is to be happy.  How that is accomplished is also demonstrated.  Hint:  It’s always a choice you make within your own mind, no matter what is going on around you.

Happiness is My Function

You can easily download it onto your computer and listen to it.

Let us know how you liked it!

When you join in the light, you heal everything and everyone, because it’s all going on in you.

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Mar 292017
 

Why set goals for your new business?

Answer:  You must know what you want in order to be able to measure your results.

If you want to have a successful  business, that is.
If you don’t have a plan, you will flounder, it’s guaranteed. Waste time, stay distracted and unfocused.  And stagnate…

That’s where I was in the beginning, exploring my options and wondering what to do next. I had an idea, but I didn’t know how to bring it to fruition.  Is this you?
Here are the crucial first steps that gave me the start I needed.
First…I hired a coach. Some coaches think they can be a coach without having one themselves. Does that ever work?  No. Because without your commitment to your own growth, you will not attract others who want coaching. Simple.
• My coach helped me change all that, she really understood who I was and where I was stuck. After I hired her, everything changed.
• I began by visualizing what I wanted the business to become, with the financial goals first. What kind of money did I want to earn in 3 months? The first year? I set a big money goal for the year and put it on a big poster and hung it up in my bedroom.

I set the specific goals I would have to reach to make that money. Once I got clear about this, I could measure how I did.

I listed my specific gifts and skills and came up with a mission and vision for the business. It wasn’t that hard, but very important. Without a mission and vision, you will lack clarity and not attract clients.

Second, I needed foundational pieces, like how I would work with people, what business structure and strategy I wanted to use for getting clients. I needed to start earning right away because I had no other income at the time so I was committed and determined. Yet focused.
I got clear about one thing—that my business was important for me and those I serve.  I was born to do this and I stuck to my own vision.  I learned to value what I bring to the table and honor myself for all the years of work on myself and others. The recognition of my own value is vital to my confidence and I love how I help people find their own vision for their life too.
Third, I  set my 90 day goals. But I had to focus on three goals only. This was hard for me, I had about 10 goals in the beginning. I was overwhelmed when I looked at them and didn’t know where to begin.  After narrowing it down to  just three goals, I determined the action steps needed for each goal: I wrote out the steps I needed to take. I worked on one goal until it was done, then I’d do the next one.

Why is it important to set goals?

Without structure, we  easily lose focus and become distracted. Social media for instance, can be very distracting…keeping us from doing the work.

I learned to turn off distractions, set one goal for the day and do only that. Setting one goal and the action steps for the day made me focus completely. It made a huge difference to know where I was going with a plan for getting there. I couldn’t do everything at once, just one thing at a time.
Lo and behold, it started to work.
Within a few months, I had a website with pages that describe who I am and what I do. I got very clear about my ideal clients. I set terms for who I wanted to serve and became clear about this.

I made a list of their qualities and drew a big circle in my mind and included only those people who met those criteria. I visualized them coming toward me and willing to pay my fee.

Wow, this was powerful.  Yes, I did the footwork. I went to many networking meetings. I talked about what I do and how I help people. I signed up clients and began to work with them and watched them transform. My confidence grew and I felt happy and excited.

It worked!

I got out of my head and out of bed early. I meditated every morning and asked for help from within and listened.

You can too.

Simplify your life. Decide on 3 goals only.  If you need help, get a coach who is focused and has clients who are having breakthroughs.

Love yourself more.  Stay determined to succeed.  You cannot fail if you believe that life is about growth, not struggle.

You and those you serve are important!

I hope this helps you today…don’t forget to leave a comment. I love to respond.

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Mar 152017
 

I am humbled by the success of our empowering book Midlife Transformations published by Inspired Living Publishing.

All 29 stories in this book, mine included!, inspire women everywhere to move through our self-doubt, limiting beliefs, and take a chance on finding our true connection to our life purpose.

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Feb 112017
 

You know those incessant thoughts that keep you up at night, when your mind races and worries about tomorrow, the next day, next year…what might happen later just take you over?

You toss, you turn, you get up, you try reading, making to do lists, anything…but something won’t let you sleep.

Do you want a simple practice that will help?

When fear arises and obsesses you, try this simple exercise. A few moments of peace in the middle of the night would help, right?

First, tell yourself: I want peace. Peace is my birthright.

Now do this:

  1. Sit down. Bring your attention into your heart space, the center of your chest.  30 seconds
  2. Take 10 deep belly breaths through the nose. Give the exhale a complete release, pause, then inhale for 2 minutes.  If there is discomfort, breathe even deeper into the belly.
  3. Now imagine a small sphere of golden light in the center of your chest. If you can’t see it, that’s OK. Give it 1 minute.
  4. Thank your heart for working so well for you every day, ask it to please slow down. 30 seconds
  5. See the sphere of light grow until it radiates out into your whole torso. 3 minutes.
  6. Now imagine the fear or what it represents is an image about 6 feet in front of you. It could be a person or a situation…just see it visually in front of you. 1 minute. Got it?
  7. Send the golden light from your heart to that image, like a firehose of light, no matter what it is or if you can see it or not. Repeat “I forgive you”. 2 minute
  8. Envelop yourself in light and repeat “I forgive you” to yourself. 1 minute
  9. Give thanks. 1 minutes.

Repeat the above steps with any fear thought that troubles you.  Now notice if you feel calmer.

It seems too simple to work, but if you try it, you will get a result.  Attention can be placed on anything you choose.

Fear comes from a false idea, it is never based upon something real.  You are imagining it and it exists only your mind.  If you don’t like fear, you can simply make a choice to experience something else instead by forgiving yourself for believing it.

The Self is always watching you go through fear states.  That You is always accessible and it is found in the heart space in the center of your chest.

This You has great power.  It knows who and what it is. It is not fooled by fear thoughts that cloud your mind. It is always accessible to you when you focus on it and give it your attention.

When you put your attention on the heart, it slows down the mind. Focusing on the golden light will release the fear. This is a very simple idea: light replaces darkness or lack of light.

When you put your attention on light, you become calmer and happier.  You are remembering who you really are.

The light is always there, we just forget all the time, and allow fear to enter our minds and bodies.  But you don’t have to do this anymore.

The simple exercise always produces a result.  All you have to do is do it.

I hope this helps you today.

Blessings!

Monica Dubay

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