Mar 262018

Do you wake up at night in a panic, feeling you’ve got to make a move, but you’re paralyzed?

Do you feel there’s something wrong with you because you’re not excited to keep doing what you’ve been doing?

Chances are you’ve reached an upper limit problem.

What’s the upper limit problem?

The upper limit problem was discussed in a book by Gay Hendricks, called The Big Leap.  It’s when you find yourself bored, dissatisfied, or in serious discomfort, and yet you can’t quite put your finger on why.

You lash out, you blame others, you get sick, you have accidents (minor, hopefully), you pick fights with your partner, you have a financial setback, your car breaks down.  These are all symptoms of the upper limit problem.

There are 3 blunders you could be making that indicate you have an upper limit problem.

Blunder #3…You are allowing your subconscious fear to run your life.

Stop.  Sit down.  Get out a piece of paper.  And write this sentence…

If it weren’t for (blank), I could be doing what I really want to do.

Just write it out, fill in the blank.  Let it come to you.

It’s simple, really. But you have to do it, because if you don’t, you will just stay stuck.

Fear is self-created, and when we listen to it, we allow it to run our behavior.  Entrepreneurs are especially vulnerable, because they are so creative, they are sensitive and have a lot of self-judgment.  They know they are amazing, talented, creative but their ego gives them a lot of trouble.

Sound familiar?

So, notice the fear and allow it to show you where you are holding back.

What now?

To really get to the heart of it, admit the fear, write it all down.  Take time to address it and let the fear go crazy for a while, so you can see where it leads.

Now, write this sentence next.

If I followed my heart and took this leap, this might happen….(write it out).

The outcome could be anything…loss, humiliation, failure, people would judge you, you would let someone down, you’d feel foolish, etc.

What’s the worst that could happen? Go wild… you’d be out of work forever, homeless on the streets without a penny to your name, and your kids would never get to college.

Write it all down.  I mean it.

Now you have it staring at you in black and white.

Take it to the absolute worst outcome.  Everyone would reject me…my family would leave me…I’d be the laughing stock of my friends if I failed.  Now laugh.  Really.  (This is where you get to see how your doubts rule you.)

So, now…get a little real here.  Imagine yourself doing what you really want to do.

I beg you to please write this:

What if I were to do what I really want to do with my life?

You could be living the life you really want…what would that look like, feel like?  You are successful at it, you are really happy that you took that leap, and everyone you serve is also happier.  You have found your real purpose, your business soars, your ideal clients find you and appreciate you.

I want you to imagine its two years from now…and it’s all working out.

See yourself in a movie…where you ARE doing those activities, being that person, feeling the feelings of its happening! You say this to yourself:  I’m living my life as I really wanted to…I followed my heart and it wasn’t easy, but I didn’t give up.

Now really give this time to resonate with you.

Don’t judge yourself for having this “fantasy”.  Brilliant minds do this all the time.  Let inspiration do its thing. Stop everything and let your mind explore your idea in quiet.  Just do this:

Visualize it and feel it.  10-15 minutes at least.

This really works if you will just do it.

But if you’re still blocked, it might be because of Blunder #2…which is:

Blunder #2…You don’t think you’re qualified to step up into the next level.  You listen to your doubts.

Self-doubt is such a killer.

It stops people from even trying to embark on their dreams.  For years, people stay in this muck of self-judgment thinking they need more training or more money, or …you name it.

I know, I was there.  I was a massage therapist, a high level energy healer and spiritual teacher, but I spent all my time fixing people’s back pain and headaches.

Not that there’s anything wrong with that.  It was very satisfying and I loved it…till my hands started hurting and I was so exhausted. (By the way, if you’re in pain, please get massage, or some kind of real help if you’re suffering, there are wonderful healers out there.)

Yet, I knew there was more and I had to listen to myself and finally take myself seriously.

So if you’re thinking you don’t have what it takes.  Stop right there.

Who says?

You can do anything you want if you truly put your mind to it, do what needs to be done, and never quit.  NEVER quit.

Maybe you need a good talkin’ to… from someone who cares about you, who knows you’re capable, smart, worthy, and crazy enough to take a giant leap out of discomfort and into the unknown.  Sure, you don’t know how…no one does when she’s jumping off a cliff.

Find that person who gets you, who doesn’t judge you, who has taken the big leap and is living their dream.  Make sure it’s not someone who listens to self-doubt or fear.

I mean it.  Don’t ask the wrong person.  It’s crucial.

Ask someone who has made their dream happen for themselves and get their advice.

Most people love to share their success stories and how they went from someone with an idea to actually making it happen.

And run it by them.  Just lay it out straight and tell them your big dream…you’re gonna change the world with your idea!

I know you are…so pay attention and find that person in your life whom you admire. Ask them to spend 30 minutes with you.  Interview them.  Find out how they did it. And let them advise you.

You won’t regret it unless you do nothing and pretend you never had the idea in the first place.  What a lie…but lots of people stay there and don’t make a move because they make the BIGGEST blunder of all.

Which is…

Biggest Blunder #1….You don’t get the support you need to carry it out. You think you can do it on your own.

I didn’t know what I needed when I was doing massage and didn’t have a plan or even a clue how to get from there to where I am now.

I needed support. And I looked, and kept looking.  And kept writing what I knew about love, extending love.  That’s what I kept telling myself, which is true, but…because I didn’t listen to myself and pay attention to what I wanted, how was that loving me?

Finally, I knew something had to change. And it was me.

So I hired a coach.

Then I met someone who said she knew someone who has a program for healers and therapists and people just like me.  So I looked her up, and followed her videos and free trainings. For a year!

Then, when I was really desperate, I sent her an email and said, I think I want to work with you, cause I’m still healing shoulders and I know there’s a bigger plan for me.

She called me back the next day, spent an hour with me…and listened.  Really listened to me and she got me.  She said, you’ve been hiding out and you’re an amazing mind healer. My program is designed for you.

Wow…that was cool.

I said yes to her offer and made an investment, (which someone literally gave me because I was completely broke at the time) …and it changed my life entirely.

Now I have a thriving coaching business helping people take their big leap!

But the cool thing is, I get to be myself and when I’m coaching people, I’m so happy. I love my life now.

I work really deeply in the mindset with my clients because mindset is 90% of the game. If you don’t change how you think, you will never change your life.

I mean never.

I came out of depression by changing my thoughts more than 25 years ago and within a few months I felt fearless for the first time in my life.  My whole life has been dedicated to healing the mind.

Of course it’s what I needed to offer in my coaching business. Duh!

But I didn’t know how until I found my coach.  I needed support. I had no clue how to get it going.  And there was a lot of crap in the way because it was, well… a big idea!

The bigger the idea, the bigger the pushback from your ego and the more fear you will have to release.

Sorry, that’s just how it is.

Luckily, there is hope!  And help.

What about you?

Could you stop making excuses and thinking you don’t deserve it, or think you’re supposed to know how when you don’t?


Perhaps you’re thinking… maybe later.

Then, I’m sorry…nothing is going to change for you.


You will probably just flounder in that denial for another year or two, or ten or forever.

That’s what most people do.  No big deal… have at it.

I get it. I had no idea how I could make it work either.

But, when the moment came for me…as I hope it is coming for you right now…where I was so lost and I finally admitted it…I made a simple choice and said yes.

Guess what?


Don’t wait, do it now… contact me for your free 60 minute Mind Alignment call.

I am ready to help you release that stuck energy and finally begin to change your life.

No obligation, just spend an hour getting some clarity on what you need and how you can move out of that fear and create your life the way you want it. You deserve it!

But no one can help you if you say not now, no…I’m not ready.

Guess what? You’ll never be ready…so stay right there, do nothing and watch other people move on through their fear and create a new life for themselves.

And you can wallow in your pain some more.

You’re not like other people. Your story is real, it’s sad and it’s tragic.

And it’s all yours. I’ve heard them all.

No money, no support, nobody loves you, you’re afraid…blah, blah…

One of my clients is on disability and she signed up to work with me for six months!  She is committed and she inspires me every week because she is having breakthroughs like you can’t believe.

And she has a debilitating disease and she doesn’t let it stop her.  And she gets it.  Really gets it.  She is all in.

She found a way to make it work and so can you, if you would just do this one thing.

BUT…I can’t make you do it.

I can just keep offering and throwing you that life line so you can break through your upper limit problem today!

People who are successful make investments in themselves. 

They know it takes hard work, they know it takes commitment, money and work to turn their lives around.

So, how about you?   What’s it going to be?

Click this link to schedule your free Mind Alignment Call:   Or email me at

I’m rooting for you and I know you have what it takes.  You just need a little support.  My whole business and life purpose is to help people like you become willing to put yourself first for a change.  Do it now.   You won’t regret it.

Shine on!


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Jun 292017

By Monica Dubay

Why should we cultivate a gratitude practice?  I often think it’s a term that’s bantered around a lot without giving it real significance. I have found that if we don’t appreciate the wonderful things in life, we miss out.

So much of the time, we are stressing about things that may not even be happening, when we worry, our mind focuses on the negative, on lack and on the future.  We aren’t in the now, when we are worrying. We are imagining scenarios of gloom and doom, and they aren’t even real.  It’s pure imagination and it causes so much anxiety.

When you cultivate a gratitude practice, by recognizing all the great things that are happening in your life, you change and so does the world.

When you stop complaining, stop worrying, and learn to give your attention to what is true and good about your life right now, something shifts and you begin to change your life.  You take control of the thoughts in your mind.

Your focus goes to what is really going on behind your limited perception, choosing to see that there is something way bigger than your little complaints.

It’s much more than just making a list.

A real gratitude practice is not making a list, but writing one thing down that you are grateful for, say a relationship that helped you.  And you focus on that person, you open your heart, you feel light coming through you to them and you acknowledge your desire to extend gratitude to them.

Being thankful for all you have been given and all that you really are, is active because gratitude is an activation of your feel good hormones, which allow you to feel joy from giving and extending love.  Then you repeat it with another person…and feel that.

When you give gratitude, it heals you and it benefits you as much as the other person, and it really connects you to them, and allows you to feel and experience the oneness of all living things.

It takes you out of your own limited viewpoint and teaches you to feel into the freedom of choice, your innate capacity to change your mind and become free again.

Freedom from fear is the reason I cultivate a gratitude practice.

I sometimes wake up anxious not knowing what the day will bring, what work I should do, who I need to contact. I work for myself, so I’m alone when not with clients or teaching, and I need to constantly battle my fear, which is just resistance.

When I stop, and take time to make my bed, thanking my pillow, my refrigerator, my housemate, my parents, my clients, my life, my Self, and my connection to all living things, I feel better.  I get dressed thanking my clothes, my makeup, my toothbrush and really feel how nice it is to have everything I need.

It’s so simple, but we get out of the habit, we get crazy and forget how connected and taken care of we are.

So, how do you become grateful when you are challenged by a circumstance you don’t like?

The most important time to remember gratitude is when something didn’t work out the way you wanted.

Life is full of heartaches, when someone we love abandons or betrays us, when we feel grief over loss, it’s a very important time to practice gratitude.

To remember good things, to remember that even if you’re hurting, you can embrace the hurt with gratitude for making you feel deeply.

When my husband announced he wanted to split up with me, I went into a state of deep anger and resentment.  I thought it was the worst thing he could do, and I didn’t see it coming.  It so disrupted my life, that I spent hours going within, working on my mind, learning to let go, feeling all those deep painful feelings of loss.

I made a major move across the country to come back to Maine and the seacoast area where I had started out my adult life.  I stayed with family, yet was grieving, I had almost no money, had given up an entire clientele and had packed everything up and moved suddenly.

It took a lot of energy to pull myself out of my desperation and I had to daily give thanks for the situation even though I didn’t like it.  I knew if I kept waking up and thanking God for the experience, I would be ok eventually.

It was very difficult, because the fear of being alone and not knowing how I would make a living or where I should live became acute at times. I had to keep asking for help, from God and from people I barely knew.

What I found was that everyone wanted to help me in some way.  There were people that I met at a Unity church and they all helped me. I found I could make friends easily, and began to feel connected again.  I had to keep going forward and stop looking back at what I’d left behind.

I opened up to receive, and asked for what I needed and was given everything, day by day, including a large sum of money to begin my new business.  Yes, it’s true.  Miracles do happen all the time, if we stay open to receive them.

The miracles made me very grateful, and whenever I heard myself complain, I realized I needed to stop and get quiet and release whatever was underneath that pain.  I paid really close attention to my thoughts and my beliefs.

I made sure I thanked God for all that I was experiencing, even the pain.

I worked on the idea that I was in a major transition and it meant letting go of the deepest fears I ever had, stuff from early childhood.  I had come full circle, having moved to NYC and Wisconsin for all of my adult life, and then returned home to the area I grew up in.  I learned to be thankful for my life’s adventures, the travel, the marriages, the children, the awakening experiences, my teachers, my friends and I could not feel alone.

The Voice in my head said to me, “I didn’t bring you here for nothing”.

So the point is, when we can be grateful even when it seems impossible, life opens up in new ways and points us to where the love is.

There, you know where…

Deep inside of you and all around you.



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Apr 272017

Here’s a link to my latest 60 minute class that heals the mind and shifts you out of fear.  It has a guided healing from the beginning and a talk on the Course in Miracles, Lessons 65 & 66, how to choose happiness, in the midst of chaos or fear.

These two lessons are so important, as they lighten up your mind and show you that your only real function is to be happy.  How that is accomplished is also demonstrated.  Hint:  It’s always a choice you make within your own mind, no matter what is going on around you.

Happiness is My Function

You can easily download it onto your computer and listen to it.

Let us know how you liked it!

When you join in the light, you heal everything and everyone, because it’s all going on in you.

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Mar 152017

I am humbled by the success of our empowering book Midlife Transformations published by Inspired Living Publishing.

All 29 stories in this book, mine included!, inspire women everywhere to move through our self-doubt, limiting beliefs, and take a chance on finding our true connection to our life purpose.

Please order your copy today on to be inspired to make that change and dare to step into your empowered new life.




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Feb 112017

You know those incessant thoughts that keep you up at night, when your mind races and worries about tomorrow, the next day, next year…what might happen later just take you over?

You toss, you turn, you get up, you try reading, making to do lists, anything…but something won’t let you sleep.

Do you want a simple practice that will help?

When fear arises and obsesses you, try this simple exercise. A few moments of peace in the middle of the night would help, right?

First, tell yourself: I want peace. Peace is my birthright.

Now do this:

  1. Sit down. Bring your attention into your heart space, the center of your chest.  30 seconds
  2. Take 10 deep belly breaths through the nose. Give the exhale a complete release, pause, then inhale for 2 minutes.  If there is discomfort, breathe even deeper into the belly.
  3. Now imagine a small sphere of golden light in the center of your chest. If you can’t see it, that’s OK. Give it 1 minute.
  4. Thank your heart for working so well for you every day, ask it to please slow down. 30 seconds
  5. See the sphere of light grow until it radiates out into your whole torso. 3 minutes.
  6. Now imagine the fear or what it represents is an image about 6 feet in front of you. It could be a person or a situation…just see it visually in front of you. 1 minute. Got it?
  7. Send the golden light from your heart to that image, like a firehose of light, no matter what it is or if you can see it or not. Repeat “I forgive you”. 2 minute
  8. Envelop yourself in light and repeat “I forgive you” to yourself. 1 minute
  9. Give thanks. 1 minutes.

Repeat the above steps with any fear thought that troubles you.  Now notice if you feel calmer.

It seems too simple to work, but if you try it, you will get a result.  Attention can be placed on anything you choose.

Fear comes from a false idea, it is never based upon something real.  You are imagining it and it exists only your mind.  If you don’t like fear, you can simply make a choice to experience something else instead by forgiving yourself for believing it.

The Self is always watching you go through fear states.  That You is always accessible and it is found in the heart space in the center of your chest.

This You has great power.  It knows who and what it is. It is not fooled by fear thoughts that cloud your mind. It is always accessible to you when you focus on it and give it your attention.

When you put your attention on the heart, it slows down the mind. Focusing on the golden light will release the fear. This is a very simple idea: light replaces darkness or lack of light.

When you put your attention on light, you become calmer and happier.  You are remembering who you really are.

The light is always there, we just forget all the time, and allow fear to enter our minds and bodies.  But you don’t have to do this anymore.

The simple exercise always produces a result.  All you have to do is do it.

I hope this helps you today.


Monica Dubay

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Sep 012016

Do you want to be wealthy?  Does the very word turn your stomach?  Do you know why? You have money blocks!

woman money 300Your mind blocks you from allowing wealth into your life if you think thoughts like:  I don’t deserve to be wealthy, If I have more than others they will judge me, or I’m not good with money.

How about this lie?  I would have to work too hard to be wealthy…that’s a good one.

When you believe that thought, you are not going to be wealthy no matter how many affirmations you state.

What is wealth?  My definition of wealth is simple:

You are wealthy when you have enough money to do what you love and fulfill your purpose without having to work too hard!

What do you believe about money?

In the Release Your Money Blocks Master Class, I uncover and release 21 beliefs energetically forever from your subconscious.  After that, you naturally begin to embrace wealth into your life.  Wealth and abundance is who you fundamentally are.

Abundant wealth is knowing you are here for a purpose and are fulfilling it with enthusiasm while becoming free of false beliefs.

Affirmations are useless if you don’t believe you deserve wealth. Believing you are already deserving, requires a fundamental change in your perception of who you are.

You may know plenty of people who have a lot of money, but are not free of fear, so they are not happy.

Being wealthy has to do more with our beliefs about ourselves than how much money we have.

Until I uncovered and released these 21 specific beliefs, nothing changed.

After I found this clearing technique and held some live workshops, and my clients all raved about their experience about how it affected their lives, I had to pay attention.

That’s why I decided to offer this Master Class at such a reasonable introductory price. Click here to find out more.

All 21 beliefs about money are released in the 2 hour Release Your Money Blocks Master Class.  Once you listen to it, you can free yourself of other beliefs that may come up later on.  You can listen to the Master Class as many times as you like.

My life’s goal is to free people from lack and fear entirely, so I will do whatever I can to help you become free.  I want you to fulfill your life’s purpose and you can’t do that if you stay in lack or fear.

I know because I was there and I found my way out.

Your life is important, there are people waiting for you to embrace your power, so you can help them! Don’t waste time by believing you can’t have wealth.

Click here to access your financial freedom… it’s a powerful release and I’ve made it so simple for you; all you need do is listen! Click below to read more.

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Jul 102016

“If you desire something, and then deny that you desire it, that’s cowardice and spiritual laziness. And what’s more, it’s a lie.”

Edwene Gaines, The Four Spiritual Laws of Prosperity

Do you set goals for yourself in your life and business?  I never liked to, and thought it was greedy.  I shied away from issues of money because I thought it wasn’t spiritual.

I just wanted to heal people, I thought.

Now my business is soaring.  How?

I stopped lying to myself, like Edwene Gaines says.

I got honest and set a financial goal every month and I learned something I didn’t realize about myself…

I love a challenge!

Each month that I set a money goal, I open up to new ideas that generate that much and I get freaking inspired.

I wonder:  how many people can I reach?

I see myself serving more and more people to help them meet and surpass their goals.

I love to stretch my vision, offer something new, a bold reach beyond what I’ve done so far. I love being in the ‘zone’ where anything is possible.

So, a little while ago, I did just that.

I’d been wanting to offer a workshop I had given many times live as a tele-class.  It’s called Release Your Money Blocks and Find Financial Freedom.

My trusted virtual assistant knew what to do, but I wanted to do it within 10 days, and it usually takes about a month to set it up.

Well, I’m never one to dilly-dally, so I just went crazy and did it.

What a whirlwind!

I wrote all the emails and the content in 7 days.

Each day I faced a new unknown task.  Silly me, I just kept going.

Even if it failed, I figured, I would learn so much just by going for it.

And yet, to my surprise…it worked!

A bunch of people signed up, and after the event, I had a recording of the class.

The class was powerful, not only the content, but also because I did something new.  I loved the positive feedback from the participants.

Honestly, I didn’t realize how effective the content truly was, until I heard the responses.

Everyone spoke about how powerful it was because the false money beliefs we cleared during the class were ones that have plagued them for years.

They just didn’t know what to do about it.

That’s the thing.  I do know.  I teach you a simple process of release and give you a workbook that shows you how to do it yourself.  As a bonus, I also give you a guided meditation that heals your mind of limiting ideas.

It’s all yours when you sign up and take the workshop.

So, be on the lookout for this workshop.  It’s only 2 hours long, and it will be offered for a limited time.

Why should you care? Well, if you already have all the money you want and all the business you can handle, then great.

But if not, you just might need this workshop.

What will happen to you?  If you don’t take it, nothing, you can stay right where you are.

But if you do decide you need help, imagine this:

Your beliefs, deeply held beliefs that you absorbed just by being in your family, will be gone and you will feel like a new person.

The only question you should ask yourself right now is:

Are you ready for a dramatic shift in your money consciousness ?

Imagine being wide open to the abundance of the universe.  Your shame and fear around money, is just, well… gone!

You embrace your calling with clarity and get support for fulfilling it. Ideas come to you out of the blue that change how you do your business.

You simply stretch yourself and reach for the stars!

Then, watch how your life changes.

All the participants said it catapulted them into fearlessness and they got totally inspired.

Some started new businesses, some quit their jobs and found new ones, one met a man of her dreams, and many were approached by people out of nowhere with business opportunities.

And doors opened.

My business coach featured me on her newsletter just because I got all uppity.

I like being a winner.

Don’t you?

So, set your goal, move into a whole new life of freedom from financial concerns, and know you are worth it.

Life is an adventure, right?

But if you’re afraid to make a big splash, maybe it’s time to get a little crazy and help change someone’s life today.

Isn’t that why you’re here?

It just might be your life that changes.

Love and blessings!




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Jun 112016

Here is a great interview with me & my gorgeous friend Monica Dubay on Unity Online Radio about eliminating sabotaging beliefs. Make sure to stay tuned for the second half of the show (after the break) in which Monica gives a guided meditation that you won’t want to miss! Click here for the recording Monica Dubay was healed of acute anxiety and depression in 1989 through realizing the power of the mind to heal. She has dedicated her life to helping others. She is a healer, spiritual teacher, writer, and catalyst for transformational leadership. She had a profound awakening through the mind-training of A Course in Miracles. She offers life-changing workshops called Heal Your Mind Heal Your Life on topics of healing, transformation and money. Her mission is to help people undergo mind/body transformation through a release of core beliefs using simple processes of healing. If you feel stuck in life and yet feel you have a purpose and calling to serve through love and healing and to help others, tune in to this inspiring interview.

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May 312016

Amazing how simple it is to undo fear, with The Work of Byron Katie. I just spent the weekend with her at the Omega Institute.

What happened to me?

I woke up in the morning with the thought: I’m afraid it’s not going to work.

It doesn’t matter what isn’t going to work, it could be anything, but it related to my opening a new office and investing in myself and my new business right now.

Immediately, my stomach tightened. You know the feeling, when one idea makes the mind race, and you forget to breathe.

You get all knotted up inside.

Sound familiar?

I thought, really?  Is that thought even true?  How do I know?

Maybe it is, OK, let’s say it is.  It’s not going to work.

How do I react when I believe that thought?

I jot down the feelings it brings up.  I’m anxious, feeling small, doomed to fail, guarded and worried.

Then I asked, what if I dropped that thought?  That one idea?  How would that feel?  Who would I be without it?

I would be happier, I would feel more at ease.

Such a simple thing really…

I am convinced I would be better off without that thought.

I turned it around and stated the opposite: It is going to work.

I was a bit curious.  I went inside and asked how I react to that thought?

Surprisingly, I was afraid of this too.  Why?

Because if it is going to work, then, well…

I would be successful, I would get lots business, people would find me, I would be located in a place I really want to be, I would feel fulfilled, at ease, making money, helping people the way I want to, and clients would be getting the support they want and need.

My life would open up to possibilities I can’t foresee.

My heart opened as I recognized that this thought: It is going to work implied three important things:

  1. I am not my fear, of success or of failure.
  2. It is worth taking the risk.
  3. It may fail. If so, I will learn from it.

Then the light went off inside:  It is already working.

I am doing it…clients are coming to me, I am reaching my audience.  It’s the beginning of a new venture and a new life.

My business has grown to the point where I need my own office, which will establish my presence in Newburyport and online.

I’m connecting with new people by not working from home.  Getting the office is the logical next step.

Then I saw once again that inner vision, like the one I had two years ago when I first declared that I wanted to move to the East Coast and reach more people.

I saw myself in a community, meeting lots of people, having fun.  I am near the water, near Boston, close to my home state of Maine, an ideal location.

The truth is, in less than two years, I have a new business and am serving more clients each week.

I need the office to keep this momentum going and to open up to prosperity.

The point being: my fear was based on nothing.

Fear is never true, it has no real substance. I am learning to trust, knowing I offer heart-centered healing work that’s powerful and needed.

It’s efficient and it’s worked for thousands of people.

It’s life-changing. And it’s changing me.

If you struggle with fear of failure or fear of success, you might want to give “The Work” of Byron Katie a shot.

But don’t take my word for it…try it and see what happens.

I help people like you change their stifling fearful beliefs with this method and others.

Isn’t it time you let go of fear and move into your real purpose now?

If so, see for yourself how it works. Or call me for a Discovery Session.  What do you have to lose?

The four questions and the turnaround are from Byron Katie’s The Work.  You can download the worksheet for learning to release your fear by using this simple method at



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May 182016

When I first started my new business, I needed help with everything.  I was in the discovery stage, and not aligned with my purpose, I didn’t even know what my business would be at all. I had a vision, but that’s all it was…a vision.

I was a massage therapist with a thriving practice, but after five years, I just didn’t like the repetition.  Yes, I was healing people and getting wonderful results with a limited number of clients, but something kept nudging me, a deep urge within me that kept me up at night.

The fact was, if I were to serve one person at a time in a small town in the Midwest, my life felt small. Not to belie the fact that massage therapists are amazing healers and extremely dedicated and way too underpaid.

But I had other talents too.  I had been a spiritual counselor, energy healer and teacher of A Course in Miracles for over 20 years, yet I didn’t know how to define my skills, or my spiritual gifts.

I wanted to expand my business and my reach exponentially, while focusing on what I do best.

But what do I do best?, I wondered.

I had amazing life experience teaching and leading retreats and classes in topics related to A Course in Miracles, so I knew I could do that.  But I wanted to meet people on a more personal level, to see how my gifts could serve them and help them move more quickly into their life purpose.  To help them find themselves and live a fuller life so they could be happy and fulfilled.

But I didn’t know how. This is what helped me the most:

I became focused on how best to serve my clients, to define what their needs are, then to see how my skills could serve those needs.

This was key. It really wasn’t about me.

It was about what frustrates people, what it feels like to know you have a calling, a greater thing to do, but you can’t quite put your finger on what it is. I was going through it myself, so I could teach what I was learning: a perfect setup.

I had to look at my life and see what I’ve done, where I’ve been and how I could serve people best knowing what I have come to know.

I was surprised at what I discovered.

I saw that even without a university degree in counseling, I was better at it than a lot of people because of my spiritual growth and experience. I learned how to value that and to recognize that my life as an energy healer and a spiritual guide was very valuable.

I had spent over 25 years in a dedicated spiritual program.  I had been through intense transformative experiences through my personal life, with three divorces, two children, losses of custody and material wealth and I was still standing.  And although I wobbled a bit from life’s lessons, I truly felt more myself than ever.  Devastation leads to intense growth.

I saw that each stage of my life, each choice I had made catapulted me beyond a place of comfort and I had repeatedly rebelled against stagnation.  I had to admit, I have a clear sense of who I am because I was willing to challenge the status quo over and over again.

I began to see myself as a transformative agent.  I didn’t even know what that really meant, but it didn’t matter. I am a trail blazer and I reinvent myself every few years.  I have struggled, tried many things, failed at some and survived them all.

One thing that really works for me is following my inner guide, which began after coming out of depression at 30 years old.  That’s when I found my spiritual path.  From that moment on, I stayed connected to my inner wisdom team, who are always available.  If I listened, got quiet, wrote things down they were communicating to me, I was golden.

Things would just appear at the right moment when I listened to what to do, where to go, and take the next step.

Was it easy? Heck no!

It was a constant release of things I didn’t need or want any more.  It was really challenging and sometimes, way too hard. Like when I turned 40, I left a comfortable home in suburban New York to pursue my spiritual path, disrupting my family and my entire life. I knew I had to do this or I would continue to suffer because staying “safe” wasn’t safe at all. It was painful and although the choice seemed extremely risky, I just knew I had to do it.

I chose growth and kept searching and finding my way.  The focus of my life has become a very simple idea and I’m committed to it:  to “Know Thyself”.

So, that’s what I bring to the table when I meet with people who are looking for help. It’s as simple as knowing what I know from my own life’s discoveries.

If you are struggling with finding your purpose, it could be that you are just not seeing what amazing abilities you have developed over the course of your lifetime.  You may not value them because they are so natural to you.

Yet, they are very valuable to someone else.  They need them and they need you, specifically.

There are those who you are meant to serve and they are waiting for you to show up. Until you do, they stay lost.

When I really embraced this idea, I realized, I’d better get moving. I hired a business/blogging coach, then took a blogging course on-line, and then signed up with a holistic coaching program for healers.  Then I launched my business and let everything happen without stress or strain…well, not exactly.

I was completely broke when I began this new business, my husband had just left which left me with thousands in debt. I didn’t have a roof over my head, I had left the state, closed my massage practice and started over with nothing, moved back to the East Coast, not knowing where I really wanted to land.  I had my car payment and debts to meet each month, with no income, no job, no friends, and no clients.

Yet, in the midst of letting my old life go, I stayed focused and got the help I needed.  Rooms to stay in, money, people, and support kept coming. I stayed open to receiving and accepted with gratitude all that came my way.

So, if I can do it, so can you.

  • Here’s the thing, when you take the attention off of you, and focus on what people around you are struggling with the most, what keeps them up at night, this opens a door of possibility.

Then ask yourself, what skills, insights, spiritual gifts, talents, or just life experience do you have that could help someone with that problem.

  • In other words, what problem have you had, that you learned how to solve through your life experience?

Don’t forget your personal relationships, like if you are a parent, or a partner to someone, you have developed skills that you probably just take for granted.  I realized I was a great mother, compassionate, loving, able to forgive and stay committed to my inner growth during those formative years.  I didn’t realize what a huge gift that was to my children and myself.

  • What qualities do other people compliment you on? What do they see in you that you don’t see in yourself.

For instance, when a friend said she thought I was a “natural” at healing, I was so surprised, I didn’t even value my abilities. I thought everyone was like me and my self-doubt was huge.  But, I just kept challenging my beliefs, and now I am a master of changing beliefs.

  • When you are just getting started, you need to ask for help.

Your spiritual support is always there. You have to invite them into your awareness, you have to link up with them and become clear about what you want. They can’t tell you that, it’s up to you to discover it, but once you make your decision to really embrace your purpose, life will support you with the help you need.

I know you can do it, if you want some help, you can always ask someone who has been through it.  Or hire a coach and begin to embrace the moment of opportunity right now.

In love and light,

Monica Dubay

Founder, Heal Your Mind Heal Your Life


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